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Years and years ago, I was in a bar and all of a sudden was ielvvond in a deep conversation with a woman who seemed very interested.Either she suddenly started bugging me, or I had too much to drink, but when the inevitable question came as to "what I do", I told her that I was unemployed. I wasn't unemployed at all. There was a complete 180-degree flip. She made small talk on something else and tried to keep a normal expression (she didn't even ask what line of business I was unemployed in), then excused herself to go to the bathroom and just disappeared.I suspect the same thing would happen if you name a very low-status job. That doesn't really happen the other way around, man/woman, obviously.Second point: I realize that it's the American thing to nose right in there and ask people what they do for a living, but that really is frowned upon a bit (when done so quickly or done in the way that it's done) in some other cultures. Really.And despite the people above who seem to think it's just a harmless getting-to-know-you tactic, I doubt that because of the way the question is usually asked. It's done for assessment and evaluation in many cases (especially when asked of men by women).I realize it doesn't happen too often, but I can remember a clear first date in which the woman was almost trying to X-ray me in terms of finances. Her questions weren't even subtle, and it was one question right after the other later on in the evening.